Tips for “Safety Planning”
1. If an argument seems unavoidable, move to a room or an area with easy access to an exit – NOT a bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons.
2. Have a bag packed and ready for quick escape if necessary. Keep the bag in an undisclosed but accessible area.
3. Tell friends and neighbors about the violence and ask that they call the police if they see or hear a problem.
4. Devise a code word to use with your children, family and friends when you need them to contact the police for you.
5. Decide where you will go if you have to leave your house. Keep Middle Way in mind – their number is (812) 336-0846.
6. Use your instincts and trust your judgment. Consider giving the abuser what he/she wants to diffuse a dangerous situation until you can get away safely. Then leave.
7. You have a right to protect yourself when you are in danger.
CHECKLIST for leaving quickly
In the future you may need to leave your home quickly. Keep these items pre-packed in a safe, accessible place.
– Money, checkbook, savings passbook, ATM card, credit cards
– Identification – driver’s license, social security card, green card, public assistance card
– Protective Order/No Contact Order
– Birth certificates for yourself and your children
– Lease, rental agreement, or mortgage papers
– Insurance information
– House and car keys
– Divorce and/or child custody papers
– School records
– Special toys or blankets for children
– Address book or important phone numbers
Visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website for more information on safety planning.